All it takes is confidence and a little
bit of know-how.
Do you wish you were sexier but think it's
impossible? It's not! Don't fall into the trap of thinking that being born sexy
is the only way.
The truth is that anyone can learn how to
be sexy. The only problem is that there's so much bad advice out there
— whether it's from a celebrity who's naturally gifted in the looks
department or a psychologist who rarely leaves his office.
You're in luck, because what men really
find sexy from any woman is something I'm about to go into great detail about.
Here's what you can do immediately to appear more sexy in your appearance and your
actions.
1. Slow down and accentuate your body
language
Without a doubt, the most powerful thing
you can do right now to instantly boost your sex appeal is to slow
down. When I say slow down, I mean slow down your movements and your speech,
not your thinking. Instead of rushing down the hallway everywhere you
go, slow down and accentuate your movements. It's surprisingly simple and
easy to do, yet it will dramatically improve your sex appeal.
Another example is when you're talking to
someone and trying to make a point. Waving your arms about quickly and
erratically may help to win your argument, but it isn't particularly sexy
and usually isn't needed. The same applies to how fast you talk. Don't
ever feel like you have to get every word out of your mouth as quickly as
possible? Slowing down how fast you talk by just 10 percent is a
really fabulous way to appear more sexy.
2. Make strong eye contact.If you want to learn how to act sexier, you
shouldn't have to trade your dignity and self-worth for it — ever. That's
why learning how to make strong eye contact is a fantastic way to look sexy and
powerful at the same time. The next time you're talking to a guy, try
making strong eye contact with him as you're talking. It's a great way to
say, "Hey, I'm confident and I know what I like."
But just like with slowing your
movements down, there's a fine line between powerful, sexy eye contact and
weird, stalker eye contact. You're going to look like a stalker if you always
make unflinching eye contact with your man, without ever breaking it. A much
better way is to hold eye contact with him until he breaks it first, about once
every five minutes or so, while you're talking. Any more than this and he may
start to feel uncomfortable.
3. Be sexy, not slutty.
People think they need to dress in the
skimpiest, most revealing clothes they can find. This certainly may attract
guys, but it will attract them for the wrong reasons. Unless you're looking for
a one-night stand, this isn't something you want to do.
At the same time, it's important to wear
clothes that show off the best parts of your body and help to improve your
overall look and attractiveness. You need to find a balance between both. The
same goes for your hair, makeup, jewelry and shoes.
4. Don't forget to touch him.
It's no secret that your looks are
important to guys. But as well as looks, another great way to attract them and
get their attention is to touch them. Now, this doesn't mean you should
touch them at every single opportunity.
What's sexy is when you touch them
sporadically. These are the best times to do this:
- When you're making a point
- When you say hello
- When you say goodbye
- When they say something funny
Touching a guy at any of these times is
totally natural, normal and sexy. And when you do touch him, it's usually best
to just touch him on the arm or back.
5. Build sexual tension.
This is actually a lot more powerful than
any of the other techniques, since it's what will keep guys thinking about you
when you're not around. The easiest way to build sexual tension is
through teasing your guy, play-fighting and generally having fun, all the while
making sure he knows you have fun.
This is the perfect way to let your man
know that you're awesome to hang out with; that you like being around him, but
you don't necessarily need him.
